This Hamilton family didn’t know they had another sister. Now they’re trying to find her
They know when she was born, what she looked like, when she was adopted, and all kinds of facts about the people who raised her.
Now this Hamilton family just needs to find her – because she’s their long lost sister, and she might not even know it.
Andrea Richard, Simone Cameron, Shelley Kay and Lori Richard grew up as sisters in eastern Ontario.
“We were a normal Catholic family,” Kay, 47, said during a call with her siblings Thursday.
They all attended Holy Family Elementary School before going to different high schools and eventually moving to different cities.
But they hadn’t realized that their life was not as normal as it seemed.
“ The ground was ripped out from under me ”
In January, Andrea, the eldest, had a DNA test.
Her family tree was not what she knew to be. She learned that she had a half-brother.
“I thought my dad maybe had another family,” said the 52-year-old, who is a Hamilton police sergeant.
But Andrea and the others couldn’t go to her parents with questions because they both died years ago.
“It would have been nice to have these conversations with them, but we didn’t, and nobody wanted to talk about it, so I think we all felt we were deprived of this chance,” Cameron said. , 51, with tears in her eyes.
Andrea sent the results to her sisters. But she didn’t know they were sitting on a huge secret that they had only learned weeks ago.
Kay and Richard said they were sorting out some of their late mother’s belongings in December.
They found adoption papers – for Andrea.
“Although we have known her as our sister for all these years, she is actually our first cousin,” Kay said.
After Andrea told them about her half-brother, they revealed that she was adopted.
“It was like the ground had been ripped out from under me… I was completely in shock,” she said.
But Kay and Richard discovered more while digging through their mother’s belongings.
‘Oh my God, mom had another baby’
“We also found a set of baby boy bracelets in my mom’s items and a hospital bracelet that she would have worn with a letter M on it, for men. And we were like, ‘Oh my God, mom. had another baby, ”Kay said.
They started calling cemeteries and other places looking for answers, but Kay said nothing came up.
On a whim, she said they had tried to find out if the child had been adopted and contacted the Hamilton Catholic Children’s Aid Society.
“A day later, I got a response saying yes, in fact my mother had abandoned a girl in 1964. At that point, I said to my sisters, ‘Are you ready for this? Kay said.
They had a long lost sister.
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Although the family does not know what happened to the boy, they began to search for the little girl and details began to surface.
The family said their mother was 19 when she gave birth on May 15, 1964 in Hamilton.
The little girl weighed five pounds nine ounces, with dark brown eyes, very fair skin, and medium brown hair. Her family name at birth was Finnan and her first name may be Joanne.
Some other facts the family say they know include:
- She was baptized in Hamilton on May 25, 1964 at St Patrick’s Catholic Church.
- Its adoption was finalized in March 1965.
- Her adoptive father was a technology supervisor at a large corporation and her adoptive mother was a payroll assistant. They were both born in the 1930s.
- She lived just outside of Hamilton and had a foster brother who was 18 months older than her.
“There’s probably a chance that we crossed paths at some point while growing up,” Cameron said.
They posted all the information they could on their Facebook group.
Research continues but questions remain
Research is ongoing, but there are still many unanswered questions.
“I just want to know who she is … does she know who her father is, is she healthy and is she doing well, and do we have nieces and nephews, and the bonus in addition would be that she wants to develop a relationship, ”said Kay.
“It’s like reading three-quarters of a book and not finishing it.”
Some of these questions even concern their own identity.
“You’ve grown up in a way and then all of a sudden it’s like ‘Wow, OK, maybe not,’” Cameron said.
“I was joking with Andrea, Lori and Shelley [about how] I got pregnant when I was 16 and I said to them, ‘Look at all the heartache I had when I got pregnant, and it would have been a great time for someone to say something, but have it. -they do? No.'”
Cameron and Richard both took tests to confirm they were who they thought they were. So far no more surprises.
Kay said she is still waiting for her results. But they said it brought them all together.
“I’m always invited to the family reunion,” Andrea joked.